Wedding Hair - Why Using Your Usual Stylist May Not Be The Best Choice!
Of course that is not always the case and I'm totally cool with that but I will say there has been more than one occasion where I have thought "Oh she would have looked better if she just let me do her makeup or her hair" when I haven't been in charge of both services.
A lot of times when I'm not booked for hair it's because the bride has opted to use her "Usual Stylist" for her wedding day hair. Now I'm not going to say that this is always a bad decision because it's not - there are plenty of salon hairstylists that are good at wedding updos and styling...but there are also a lot that aren't!
I think a lot of times brides feel "guilty" if they don't hire their regular hairstylist for their wedding day or they just assume they are a hair stylist and they cut/colour my hair great therefore they'll do my wedding hair great...but that's not always the case. Do not feel like you are "cheating" on your usual stylist if you don't use them on your wedding day.
So this isn't to say you shouldn't hire the person that cuts/colours your hair it's just important to ask some questions and make sure they'll be the right artist to achieve you wedding hair dream.
Here's some questions to ask or things to think about:
Do they do weddings often/Have they done a lot of weddings in the past? Ask your stylist this don't just assume they do. There are a lot of hairstylists nowadays that don't want to do weddings or almost never do weddings. Either because they don't like them or their specialty isn't updos or wedding styling.
How comfortable are they with Wedding Hairstyles? Some salon stylists are amazing and cut and/or colour but you ask them to do an updo or half updo and it's just not their forte. This doesn't make them a bad stylist it just means it's not one of their strengths. If they aren't strong in updos do you really want to risk their skills on your wedding day.
Are they willing to come to you on your Wedding Day? Weddings typically happen on Saturdays which of course is the busiest day in the salon. Are they willing to leave the salon for several hours to work your wedding w/ you and your bridal party or do you have to go to the salon?
If you have to go to the salon how will this effect your timing for your wedding day? Is this going to cause more stress or anxiety for you having to travel to and from the salon vs. getting your services in your home or a hotel where the artist comes to you? More and more brides are opting to have mobile services for this reason. It's just so much more stress free to have an artist or team come to you and your girls where you are!
If the stylist comes to you or you go to the salon what's the timing like? I've also seen several times where b/c the bride wants her usual stylist to do her hair she's had to get it done HOURS before the ceremony or pictures b/c that's the only time the stylist could fit her in. Either the stylist came to her and did it super early before their Saturday salon hours or the bride went to the salon super early in the morning. If you have an updo this might not be the end of the world as they are typically pretty sturdy if done properly but if you are wearing your hair down and you get it done hours before pictures or the ceremony you have a much stronger chance that they hair is going to fall and not look like you had hoped by time the ceremony comes around.
Remember to ALWAYS do a trial with your usual stylist! If you do want to use your usual stylist make sure to book a hair trial with them...don't just chance it and think they will do exactly what you want on the day b/c they are use to cutting/colouring your hair. I personally find even with my own work I do a better job on the hair the second time around. I figure out little adjustments and things I want to fix for the wedding day. The trial is as much a practice round for me as it is for the bride so it's VERY important!
If you aren't happy with the trial DON'T feel obligated to still use your regular stylist! I've seen and heard this time and time again. A bride does a trial w/ their stylist and they leave unhappy but then somehow magically hope/expect that their wedding day will turn out better. Speak up at your trial. If the stylist isn't getting your vision let them know so they can try to fix things they aren't mind readers lol! If they still don't get it and you are doubting they'll get it on the wedding day FIND ANOTHER STYLIST FOR THAT DAY!!! It's one of the most important days of your life and you're spending so much money on every detail you HAVE to hopefully LOVE...at least LIKE your hair! DO NOT stick w/ a stylist if you are judging their wedding hair skills. It will cause more stress for you and you'll actually resent them later if you hate your wedding hair.
Like I said above just b/c a stylist is amazing at cutting and colouring doesn't mean they understand or can execute wedding hairstyles. It's a VERY different skill set for a stylist and truthfully a lot of stylists don't get that much practice at it and it's not heavily taught in school.
I don't cut or colour hair but I specialize in wedding hair...you wouldn't want me to cut or colour your hair b/c it would be a disaster but I feel pretty confident doing your wedding updo lol!
I've had it happen multiple times where a bride who I was doing makeup for contact me after and ask to do a hair trial b/c her regular stylist just didn't seem to get her vision. I've also seen brides cry b/c they had their regular stylist do their hair while myself or my team has done their bridesmaids' hair and it's looked better. And of course I've seen salon hairstylists do work that's amazed me where I've wanted their card lol!
All I'm saying is think about what's right for you on your wedding day and don't feel obligated to make a choice b/c you feel pressure or a sense of loyalty if it's not what's right or convenient on your wedding day.